Therapy for Anxious Attachment in West LA and virtually throughout CA.


Why You Might Feel “Too Much” and Still Not Enough

Have you noticed that you’re constantly worrying if someone is upset with you even when there’s no clear reason to be? Maybe you replay texts, reread conversations or feel intense anxiety when you don’t hear back right away. You often crave closeness but fear being abandoned. You want to feel secure in your relationships, but instead, you often feel needy, on edge or unsure of where you stand.

If this sounds familiar, you may be experiencing anxious attachment. Attachment bonds form within early relationships with caregivers and continue to show up in adulthood. Anxious attachment usually shows up as fear of rejection, clinginess, emotional overwhelm or difficulty knowing your worth.

Not Sure if You’re Anxiously Attached?

A few common indicators:*

  • You feel anxious or insecure in relationships, even when things are going well

  • You fear being abandoned, left out, or "too much" for others

  • You seek constant reassurance but struggle to believe it when it’s given

  • You tend to overthink texts, interactions or silence

  • You put others’ needs first and lose sight of your own

  • You often feel emotionally exhausted from relationships

*Please note that this is not formal diagnostic criteria and that attachment can vary greatly depending on the person and their specific circumstances.

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How Anxious Attachment Presents

  •  You settle for less than you deserve because being alone feels unbearable.
  •  Rejection hits hard, even after just a few dates, and can send you into a spiral of self-blame.
  •  You feel like you're always the one who cares more.
  •  You question your worth when someone doesn’t choose you, even if you weren’t that into them.
  • You ignore red flags just to keep the possibility of love alive.
  • You struggle to set boundaries or express needs, fearing it will scare someone away.
  • Dating feels like emotional whiplash - hope, anxiety, disappointment, repeat.
  • You constantly worry your partner will leave, even when the relationship is going well.
  •  You feel overly sensitive to shifts in their tone, texting habits or availability.
  •   You need frequent reassurance because it’s hard to believe you're truly loved.
  •   You’re willing to ignore your own needs just to keep the peace or avoid conflict.
  •  You often feel like you’re giving more than you’re getting but don’t know how to communicate it.

Origins of Insecure attachment

Anxious attachment usually begins in childhood when your emotional needs were met inconsistently. Maybe love and comfort were available sometimes but not reliably, or you felt like you had to earn love by being “good,” helpful, or easy to be around. As a result, adult relationships can bring up deep fears of rejection and a constant need to prove your worth.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy can help you finally break free from the cycle. Together, we’ll work to:

  • Understand where these patterns come from and why they’re so hard to shake

  • Build emotional security from the inside out

  • Learn how to set boundaries without guilt

  • Increase self-trust, confidence, and resilience in relationships

  • Create more fulfilling, reciprocal connections

Using approaches like attachment-based therapy, EMDR, and emotionally focused techniques, we’ll help you shift from anxiety and self-doubt to clarity, calm, and connection.

You're Not Too Much—You're Just Ready for More

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Anxious attachment doesn’t have to define your relationships forever. With the right support, you can unlearn the fear and move toward relationships where you feel safe, loved, and enough—just as you are.

Ready to take the first step? Schedule a free consultation or reach out to learn more.